Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?

2 Corinthians 6:14 (KJV)

I was in an unequally yoked relationship. My ex-boyfriend knew of God, but he didn’t have a relationship with God. And I knew I needed more than that.  Honestly, I settled. I tried to convince myself, “Well, I led a good amount of people to Christ by planting seeds, being patient, praying for them, giving godly counsel, and encouragement. This will be easy.” But, Lord God! As we learned more about each other, I realized we were complete opposites. And nothing is wrong with being opposites. As a matter of fact, some of our differences complemented each other. BUT, we had different views on church, the role of pastors, on whether or not a purpose/calling existed, and so on.

After about a year,  I just couldn’t do it anymore. I needed more than a man who simply believed in God. I needed a man who was after God’s heart. I needed a prayer partner, someone to go to church with, and someone who would understand why God is so important to me. And I’m one of those people who can talk about God all day and all night. My close friends and I would get so much joy out of it. We would literally talk down God’s glory, but I couldn’t do that with my ex. And to be quite frank, he was slowing me down spiritually. I had to break up with him. After I ended our relationship, I made up in my mind that I rather be single than to settle for a man who doesn’t have a relationship with God and doesn’t have His Spirit.

So next time you’re out meeting new people, keep 2 Corinthians 6:14 in mind. You will meet some nice guys who heard of God and believes in Him. But I promise, you will need more than their belief. Will he be able to intercede for you and lift you up before God? Will you two be able to praise God together? And if God’s willing and you two get married, will you both teach your children about God and His Ways together? Don’t become a spiritual single mom!

An unequal yoke gets very draining after a while, and pretty soon, that unequal yoke will become pretty heavy on your end. And you will be bearing all the weight…plus your boyfriend. And God never intended for it to be like that. So when you meet someone, make sure you two are carrying the load together – equally.

~ Crystal